Children and young people have the right to be consulted on arrangements that will affect their lives, provided they are able to express their own views and wishes, but very few have the chance to have any say in practice. Some family mediators are specially trained to meet with children and young people, as well as with parents. Parents and/or young people and children needing to work out arrangements that take account of the child’s feelings and wishes (particularly in or after separation/divorce), should look for a service that can offer this special help.
Testimonials: The following quotes are all from real clients who wanted to let their FMA mediators know what family mediation was like for them
“Knowledge combined with empathy, total fairness, instinctive recognition of and respect for boundaries.”
“As much as I wanted to know my daughter’s views about our divorce, I wanted to keep her away from all the decisions, she had enough to worry about. When the mediator spoke about speaking to our daughter, we agreed and hearing what she had to say helped us both focus on the important things: her security, her happiness and her fears. Me and her dad can now speak without fighting because we see we have a common goal, thank you so much for making it easier to hear what she had to say.”
“ I would like to express my immense gratitude for the help given and the transforming effect that the help has had on my relationship. I could certainly not have imagined prior to mediation that we would be able to hold a constructive and civil conversation. My daughter is of course the true beneficiary of all this.”
“Although it is a ‘legal environment’ the discussions were such that matters could be dealt with amicably and it was stressed that either one of us was able to leave at any point and hold discussions separately.”