Written by Karen Marshall
When you are separating, going through a divorce or rebuilding your life again, you may be thinking, love will never happen again, or you really don’t want another relationship right now, because of the pain, heartache, and challenges you are working through. If you have children, their welfare will be something else on your mind. Let’s face it – splitting up is never going to be fun – and it may have you living one day at a time. And that’s all before you start getting into the protracted pain of legal proceedings and solicitors bills.
If you are smart, you will have tried to reduce all that stress by accessing mediation. But even with the most peaceful divorce, it is important to give yourself time to heal emotionally before moving on into a new relationship.
THE HEALING PROCESS
If you find yourself in your 40’s, 50’s or over, if you’re taking time out to heal your heart and get your head straight, finding love again could be far away from your thoughts. You could feel like you’re running a long marathon without any finish line in sight. Your vision ahead is only on the road right now.
When you are hurt and cut yourself, you need time to heal any wound. It is the same with your heart. As your wound or heart takes time to heal, learn to love yourself again, how you can improve your inner happiness, and the skills to bounce back so much more quickly if you are ready to change your experience of life.
If you value your self-worth and self-development, you’ve possibly had some counselling to support you emotionally, to help you feel happier and more confident, so it’s important to take the first step getting to know YOU again and what makes you tick.
With the right self-development support, you will transform your thinking and future choices.
If you want to be empowered to get YOU back on track, with an expert helping hand by your side, now is the perfect time to make the right life choices ahead if you’re ready to get out there and start socialising again.
As you rebuild your life independently being single once more, I cannot stress enough, you need to be guided in the right direction. You will otherwise get lost in the jungle of life or keep falling into the same negative holes on your road ahead. When you learn new skills now, you will quickly navigate around the holes, instead of falling again and again or staying stuck emotionally or mentally.
Sometimes in life we meet people we are not expecting, and it can happen when are you feeling lonely or vulnerable. If you only focusing on your children, you could possibly waste the next 1, 2 or 5 years of your life waiting to feel ready. If you don’t take different steps NOW you will continue to carry your negative experience of divorce around with you now and into your future that will impact every area of your life.
HAVE SOME FUN ALONG THE WAY BUT BE WARNED
Be warned! If you are looking for sexual chemistry to have fun right now, or choose to be single, that is okay. It’s all part of your journey. This is also a vulnerable time you could attract someone and get pulled into a relationship that is unhealthy, or not right for you.
If you do, the chances are you are likely to repeat the same relationship mistakes, or sabotage your dating experience or any new potential relationship (you might not even be aware of doing this).